Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Double standards?

"Could you tell me the train I'll have to take to get there", she asked. I looked it up online and confirmed what I doubted. There were no direct trains going there. A while later she came down and asked me if I knew the number to a taxi service. I didn't. Told her who she could call to ask for it. Not once in all the while did the thought of driving her there cross my mind.

He said he walked down to work from his home everyday. Oh, do you want me to pick you up I asked. I drive down the same way.

Sigh. It's not just this. Maybe we(you are more than welcome to count yourself out of this generalization. I just feel better believing there are others with me on this) are also more tolerant to the quirks and qualms of the opposite sex. I'm not very proud of it. But guess that's just the way things are. Flirting someone called it. I'm not so sure about that. This is what I would call flirting..

[Girl bumps into guy]
Girl: Oh! I'm sorry.
Guy: [Smiles] I'm not.

Of course, if not said the right way and by the right person the guy would come out looking just plain creepy. But we're assuming the guy has the class and style to carry it off.
Not my original. Courtesy him.

3 comments:

Manjunath Shevgoor said...

That was a perfect snapshot of all our behavior patterns.... but i really doubt it can be called flirting, thats just the way we are wired... and thanks for the link again :)

Rach said...

I don't think this difference in behaviour has anything to do with gender. (Well atleast not everything!)

Some people are just more tolerable than others. We know that very well :)

Another thing is that in the case of the girl you'd have had to go out of your way but not so for the guy ("I drive down the same way," you say :)) So don't be too harsh on yourself ;)

Unknown said...

confusing to read.... [:P], the first paragraph is in the first person w.r.t male, second one is in the first person w.r.t female? or is it some figure of speech,(or i am too sleepy to comprehend?)

anyway i sort of agree with Rach but in a more generalized way, people are a combination of 3 instincts with varying probabilities for the three possibilities,
1. Tolerable to everyone
2. Tolerable to opposite sex
3. Tolerable to same sex

So, it is not necessary that people who r nice to women/men are nice to all people.